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Female Performer Chat: Submission is a mission
These days with the roles of gender being so equal in society do you find yourself wishing for something more?
I find it so hard to find those who enjoy giving over full control as I do.
So here comes my question to everyone,
How does everyone feel on full submission slavery, such as control as to what ones eats and when, what ones wears and yes even down to when ones empties there bowels. This has always turned me on so much. I long to give control over and please the person(s) I am talking to. I find it hard for some to be able to direct me as to what they want, but enjoy it when I long for them to tell me to do.
Is there a line where having control can be too much or is it just a situation of trust and devotion?
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I find it so hard to find those who enjoy giving over full control as I do.
So here comes my question to everyone,
How does everyone feel on full submission slavery, such as control as to what ones eats and when, what ones wears and yes even down to when ones empties there bowels. This has always turned me on so much. I long to give control over and please the person(s) I am talking to. I find it hard for some to be able to direct me as to what they want, but enjoy it when I long for them to tell me to do.
Is there a line where having control can be too much or is it just a situation of trust and devotion?
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These days with the roles of gender being so equal in society
Really you think they are equal? I grant they are closer to equal than any time in recorded civilization, but I think there is still room for improvement.
Anyways as to your real question, I have never seen the appeal personally to the whole Dom/Sub "fetish". That doesnt mean that I think it is wrong or misguided, hey different strokes for different folks.
I really dont see there being a line in regards to too much control...AS long as both sides are consenting mentally competent adults, a safety word is in place, every one involved is deriving their own personal pleasure from it.
There might easily be a line crossed in the minds of those on the outside looking in, but screw em they dont have all the facts and are placing their own sexual bias and prejudices on a situation not of their own making.
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Really you think they are equal? I grant they are closer to equal than any time in recorded civilization, but I think there is still room for improvement.
Anyways as to your real question, I have never seen the appeal personally to the whole Dom/Sub "fetish". That doesnt mean that I think it is wrong or misguided, hey different strokes for different folks.
I really dont see there being a line in regards to too much control...AS long as both sides are consenting mentally competent adults, a safety word is in place, every one involved is deriving their own personal pleasure from it.
There might easily be a line crossed in the minds of those on the outside looking in, but screw em they dont have all the facts and are placing their own sexual bias and prejudices on a situation not of their own making.
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I think to totally submit there has to be allot of trust, as a cynical old man I lack that. I'm also a bit of a control freak, no one can make better decisions than me. 
The idea of my own need for control comes from the chaos I have from myself. I am not able to make smart choices for myself all the time and need some one to help me. Yes it takes a lot of control but in a fantasy environment can be so much fun! Quote
The idea of my own need for control comes from the chaos I have from myself. I am not able to make smart choices for myself all the time and need some one to help me. Yes it takes a lot of control but in a fantasy environment can be so much fun! Quote
Really you think they are equal? I grant they are closer to equal than any time in recorded civilization, but I think there is still room for improvement.
Anyways as to your real question, I have never seen the appeal personally to the whole Dom/Sub "fetish". That doesnt mean that I think it is wrong or misguided, hey different strokes for different folks.
I really dont see there being a line in regards to too much control...AS long as both sides are consenting mentally competent adults, a safety word is in place, every one involved is deriving their own personal pleasure from it.
There might easily be a line crossed in the minds of those on the outside looking in, but screw em they dont have all the facts and are placing their own sexual bias and prejudices on a situation not of their own making.
I do feel the standardized role of a female in the home has drastically changed over the last 60 years. However with my idea it is more to a life style. A woman serving a man or a man serving a woman. I seek control as I am the one who preforms most of the control over situations in my own life. For the good or the bad. However when I am lacking motivation I find i desire nothing more than someone to point me in the right direction. Chaos seeking order I suppose and to always each his own.
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2/1/12 @ 11:47pm
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However when I am lacking motivation I find i desire nothing more than someone to point me in the right direction. Chaos seeking order I suppose and to always each his own.
I can see the sense in that, "chaos seeking order", and in your case more so than a friend who give good advice could offer, yeah I can see that as relief valve.
We all deal with chaos and stress in our lives differently, myself I have always been easily able to detach myself from things. Although I have had women in my past tell me I am too detached at times to the point it became a bone of contention.
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I can see the sense in that, "chaos seeking order", and in your case more so than a friend who give good advice could offer, yeah I can see that as relief valve.
We all deal with chaos and stress in our lives differently, myself I have always been easily able to detach myself from things. Although I have had women in my past tell me I am too detached at times to the point it became a bone of contention.
I agree that sometimes the ability to be able to detach is necessary. This also comes into play into my own desires as I very much seem to be too attached to people, events past and present. I find that with the control of being able to be something better or different for some one else..to be there i suppose perfect idea of how a woman should hold herself. It allows me to be able to make my own opinions based on how I feel while I am experiencing them. It also allows me to be able to "pretend" or be something i am not completely allowing me to not have to my too emotional or dysfunctional self.
But as always to each their own. I was just wishing to hear the expression of others ideas and feelings as always!
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I am enjoying our discussion Victoria, and even feel like im getting a bit of an education. 
It is obvious to me that we are from two very different ends of the spectrum, but I like that. If we well all cookie cutter copies of each other, I think life would be a dull exsistance. Quote
It is obvious to me that we are from two very different ends of the spectrum, but I like that. If we well all cookie cutter copies of each other, I think life would be a dull exsistance. Quote
I love total control. I would love alife slave. I wonder what your limits are... Hope to chat live one day!
i feel sometimes the only limit i have is finding the good inside of myself and being able to put it to use better than i can learn through personal training.
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i feel sometimes the only limit i have is finding the good inside of myself and being able to put it to use better than i can learn through personal training.
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I am enjoying our discussion Victoria, and even feel like im getting a bit of an education.
It is obvious to me that we are from two very different ends of the spectrum, but I like that. If we well all cookie cutter copies of each other, I think life would be a dull exsistance.
in life we never stop to learn!
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It is obvious to me that we are from two very different ends of the spectrum, but I like that. If we well all cookie cutter copies of each other, I think life would be a dull exsistance.
in life we never stop to learn!
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